Swinging is one of the oldest forms of group
entertainment, having been practiced by man for thousands of years!
Many people who write on the subject of swinging state
that it is a fairly modern practice started in WW2 by members of the
American Air Force. However in various forms it has been around for a lot
longer than that. The ancient Greeks and the Romans were heavily into
group sex sessions and many writings and pictures exist from these periods
describing the action, and many households kept servants whose sole
function was to keep the mistress and master of the house sexually
satisfied. The European upper classes through the 1700-1900's were also
keen proponents and many paintings, drawings and photos were created
showing them, and often their servants, having fun.
Swinging, also known as partner sharing, partner or wife
swapping, or sometimes simply as "The Lifestyle" is consenting adults
enjoying the experience of having sexual relationships with (multiple)
partners other than their spouse.
A common misconception is that swingers have sex with
anyone. Except for a few events such as dogging or an orgy, the majority
of swingers only have sex with people they find attractive. Do not think
that by attending a swingers party you will be expected or allowed to have
sex with any and everyone, unless the event is billed as a free for all or
orgy, you will only be expected to interact with people who you find
attractive and who find you attractive. At every swinging event everyone
has the right to say "NO" at any time to anybody.
There are many sub groups of swinging, some of which
"purists" discard as not being genuine swinging, however, as a
discriminated group, most of us do not discriminate against others with
different tastes to our own.
Swinging Includes (but is not limited to):
- Partner Swapping - Pure
swinging where 2 couples swap partners for a session of fun.
- Swingers Parties - Where
groups of swingers, both couples and singles, meet and swap in many
- Greedy Girls - These are
ladies with a high sex drive who enjoy the attention of multiple
- Threesomes - Where a
couple will bring either a single male or single female into their
relationship for added fun.
- Dogging - Car Park Sex,
where people meet in various outdoor location for sex with complete
- Soft Swinging - Where
people will have sex with their own partners while being watched by
- Swinging Exhibitionists
- Couples or sometimes single who like to show off their bodies, or to
let people watch while they have sex.
- Cuckolding - Where a
mans partner (called a Hot Wife) will have sex with other men, sometimes
at a different location, sometimes making the man watch.
Since the advent of the internet swinging has become a
more widely practiced lifestyle due to the ease of identifying and
contacting people who want to live out similar fantasies. There are many
swingers contact databases available. Many are run by corporations just in
it for your money, some genuinely good smaller ventures started by genuine
swingers come and sadly go very quickly, others such as
dirty david and
Adult Friend Finder have been online since the 1990's and have
millions of members looking for fun in almost every corner of the globe.
These sites allow their users to create detailed
profiles about their likes and dislikes and what they are looking for in
potential new play-mates. They also offer a quick and secure method of
contacting each other.
Happily, Swinging is legally practiced in most
countries. There are a few countries which are still locked in the dark
ages, where some people think they have the right to determine what others
do for enjoyment, here swinging is still a very dangerous pastime with the
penalty of death in most Moslem countries and China, however even in these
countries people find a way to make contact and enjoy their lives. The
year 2011 saw many restrictions lifted on the internet in Middle East
countries, as a result we have seen an increase in the number of people
using our swingers websites from this part of the world.
Rules of Engagement
rules have been instituted as party etiquette to ensure that everyone in
attendance has the best possible time. We are here to have fun and enjoy
ourselves. Some of the rules may sound silly or obvious. Trust us, if we
are saying something, it’s because it has been an issue in the past and we
want to make sure we cover all bases.
rules are basically about respect. They fall within four basic elements of
Respect for another’s personal space and privacy
Respect for your relationship, yourself and your personal health
Respect for the relationships of others
Respect for the “house”
1.Respect for another’s personal space and privacy
Ladies – be nice. A simple, no thank you is sufficient. You don’t need to
give him the gas face and say something snide. It takes a lot of courage
for a man to walk across the room and ask you if he can be intimate with
you. Please try not to disgrace him as you tell him Hell No.
ii. Fellas – do not mistake kindness for uncertainty. No means no, not
“not right now” or ‘ask me again in 30 minutes” or “keep standing here
saying ‘please, come on, please, please, come on. Come on… please’” or
sneaking up on me while I am in the middle of a 6 man gangbang and try to
get in where you fit in.
c.3. 3 foot rule is in effect
before you touch
Wait your turn
arbitrary talking or heckling in the play areas
What happens at a party, stays at a party
mindful of sexual orientations
Fellas, if you are involved in a 3some, and it’s time to change positions,
remember to rotate to the left.
2.Respect for your relationship, yourself and your personal health
Wash between encounters
Use the mouthwash provided
Do not over drink
i. Fellas – Alcohol is a depressant
ii. Ladies – Drunkenness is not an excuse for doing
something you didn’t want to do
Do not do anything or anyone you don’t want to do
If you hear your mate making a noise with someone else that they don’t
make with you, it doesn’t mean that they like the other person better than
you… only differently than you.
Do not do something with another person that you will not do with your
Please do not do something that violates the boundaries that you have set
up with your mate.
3.Respect the relationships of others
Clear it with the mate before you play with someone
Respect a couples boundaries
Do not fall in love with someone else’s mate
Do not fall in love with anyone who has not implied that they are
interested in you that way (singles included)
4.Respect for the house
ABSOLUTELY NO DRAMA
If you have an issue with something your mate is doing or has done at this
party, please wait until you get home to deal with it.
must leave here who you arrived with
No nakedness around the food
No playing in the bathroom(s)
If you are in the shower, please leave the door unlocked for those who
might have to pee
If you have to pee while someone else is in the shower, be sure to ask if
it’s okay. DO NOT FLUSH!
If you are using the bathroom while someone else is taking a shower,
please refrain from taking a shit
If you have a problem with something someone is doing please bring it to
the attention of the hosts
Please dispose of your used condoms in the proper receptacles
If you step outside for a smoke, please dress appropriately
Please keep the noise level down
If there is a particular activity that is going on that you don’t like but
it is not a violation of the rules as stated, please remove yourself from